Normality
For Indian purists - which on the surface seems to include the government,
media and the man on the streets - Aishwarya is a slut. Simply because the
stunning beauty has had boyfriends in the public limelight and portrays a siren
on TV.
For many 'South Asian' women the honeymoon period can be a jarring time when
they try to come to terms with the male sexuality. Most Desi girls are bought
up to fear strange men and are admonished to guard their virginity no matter
what.
Sex is treated as a dirty activity, best not talked about and indulged in with
the woman lying on her back wondering about the cobweb trailing on the fan with
her husband humping away at her missionary style.
Before the wedding the virgin is generally told by an aunt that sex hurts
initially, its dirty and a duty to be performed with no questions asked. Does
one really expect an apprehensive woman whose exposure to men has been limited
to family and male relatives to suddenly rip her clothes off and say - 'Come do
me Raju!'
Here is what generally happens - either the men force themselves on the women
and it becomes honeymoon from hell or they become friends and after returning
home from the vacation they have sex.
Love marriages are on the rise in India and hopefully men are more sensitive to
womens' needs. But when a honeymoon goes wrong do we lay the blame on the woman
and say that she wasn't normal and so her honeymoon didn't go right?
It seems for now that India will continue to struggle with what is 'normal'.
